Today, all of a sudden my GF called me to share one of the scandalous messages “Darling, we cant be together anymore” I was totally dumfounded that gave me sudden jerk. Well, it’s been a long relationship for about almost 2 years. Honestly speaking, at the outset, I took it as a fun affiliation; on the contrary, she was utterly drenched with my love.

slowly but surely, I just took it for granted and met her when I needed. On the other hand, she used to call 10 times a day and sending countless messages which I hardly replied with real curiosity. Lucky, I was to be her first Boy Friend. Though we live in same city we meet hardly once or twice a week all because of my hectic schedule and some other things. She had always time for me, yes always.

Whenever, we met she strike a chord me how much she loves and how her life has been complete after my ingress. “Honey, You are my Prince” She whispered many times kissing me tightly. After few 5-6 months I got jaded with her as I really did not like her as a Girl Friend, she was different, unique, tall, blonde and average looking girl. But I do not know why she did not attract me that much.

However, things went on, I thought of ending relationship many times in between but I just assured myself “Man, there is nothing to lose”. During our relationship I spent few months abroad, and as traveling being my biggest passion, I made short trip around nearby countries though I always ran out of money. (Surprisingly, I never missed her in those trips, she mailed me everyday with everything she did from morning to evening). Bastard, I was, I did not carry even a postcard that barely costs a euro. She never grumbled anything, all she needed was me and my company and love.

Then finally, I had to go to another continent for my study purpose for one semester “I unofficially ended the relationship from my side and finally excused her for not being so loyal to her, I admitted I could have been a better boy friend. At that time, I felt sorry for her and all the troubles I poured upon her.

To my surprise she wrote me Next day “Man, you're the best thing that's ever happened to me. I want you to know you haven't treated me badly, ever, even though you seem to think so. You have always been so good to me, and I really mean always. But now it's time for you to leave for other country. And it's time to decide whether or not we'll continue together. I already said to you what I want. You, you, you. That is what I want. And I want it so badly. I hope and in a way I know that we'll continue this love story (don't mind the clichés I use all the time). Boy it's a long way, but why should it stop us? We love each other more than anything, more than we can say. I want you to be open with me, don't hold anything back. Tell me everything you want and feel and love and hate. “Then she added “I wanna share my stupid stuff with you, even the most stupid things I wanna tell you. I am ready to go through this long separation. Are you?”

Then after spending a semester I again came back and she was there to welcome me with open arms. My feelings were same for her. We met like before and so on and on. Slowly I started loving her, I wanted to spend more time with her….I enjoyed being with her….which obviously she liked a lot.

And suddenly she said she can’t be with me anymore coz she thought we r totally different and she is still puzzled if I am right person for her. When she divulged this yesterday I realized how much I liked her, I was about to burst into tears. I never expected such bitter news from her. I know it’s my entire fault not to take it seriously, similarly I am damn sure not to stay in that country for long where she wd love to spend her whole life, Marriage was not in our card (Neither mine nor her).

If so, why I am so much worried now? Is it ego problem or a MAN thing? Today I wrote her a very long email (perhaps the longest) and we exchanged 20 SMSs. It seems she had absolutely determined to walk away from my life. I started feeling her absence right from that moment and I am begging for her love now. Never in my wildest imagination, I thought I would do that but I am dying to meet her now and to express everything. But she kept on repeating, we r very different to each other, she had seen me long and its time we drive different lanes. But she is still in dilemma and , she had not yet revealed we wr BROKEN UP. Then we r meeting finally to decide about this thing and spending a night together in her apartment, that could be the last night or …..I do not know…..I still have chance….Dear friend,s please tell me what should I do??????

Is it only my EGO that does not allow her to go or is this real love? I cant figure out anything.., I’m also not certain if I can change her mind….or Should I let her go her own away, time will heal everything, what I should I say…..how should we act?? I don’t know….what will happen if we re established our relationship? Can I change myself? I have no IDEA friends………………Im just f’*** up but one thing is sure I LOVE HER.

(She is 20 years, European, a college student, better looking than me with European Standard height)

Just now I wrote her SMS

My princess, I will love you till the end of time
Every breath of mine I'll hold you by my side

But I'll rest in peace my sweetheart would you
Let me die in your arms with you-

In a wicked mood,

नक्कलीलाई बगाईहाल्यो झिल्केले
झिल्केलाई पीर पर्‍यो
तिमीहामी सोझालाई
फ्वाँकैमा ताल पर्‍यो
नक्कलीलाई...

तर झिल्के, you are not done with this one. I mean, not really with Nakkali, but with Nakkali ko maya. Don't start to "move on" yet. The loss deserves a decent mourning. For that, it is important for you not to feel hurt or guilty. Otherwise you will seek quick escape. You must not do that because as I said the loss deserves a graceful mourning and you do seem to be a strong and decent person to be able to and willing to do that.

And I don't have to explain that you will be mourning gracefully not by hard feelings or guilt, but by cherishing Nakkali and the moment you had together.

May you have a soul-filling experience in what other might see an empty time.

You might surprise yourself by the peace and love you might feel.

Take my word.

Nepe

aznshawty, thanks for sweet words, Canada?? its Ontario, very close to museum of civilization, or next to REDAU center....Im sure u got it >/

Lahure bro, thanks a lot for dropping few words, im glad to have your support but I bet you know the PAIN behind our smile.....but life goes on and on......How u doing? Always playing GOLF? U r too cool

Nepe bro " Loss deserves a graceful mourning", what a sentence.... Believe me, I remember you very badly when I met her last time, in fact the incident that happend in ISRALE and your song " JINDAGI KE SAFAR MEIN..........GUJAR JATE HAI....."

daum dude, ya u caught me right, still not sure who should sing that song...........!!!

Amazing,

I think you handled this ordeal quite gracefully. And I wouldn't be surprised if your Nakkali will someday count the way you handled this break-up as one of the nicest memories you gave to her.

When it comes to relationship, there is always more to it than you can sense, make sense and talk about. Something will always remain unknown, a mystery and untold. Be mindful of that and don't ever try to get to the bottom of it whether out of mere curiosity or like for the purpose of giving an accounted closure to it. No, neither you can or must understand it fully, nor a closure is really needed. Closure is for weak people and for uncherishable relationships. It's not for you and this one.

When you refused the "proposal" of "friendship", I don't know what you were thinking or how Nakkali and other friends thought about it. However, I kinda liked it.

To me, a declaration of post-breakup friendship is, on the contrary of the idea of keeping the relationship unterminated, actually constructing an invisible wall, declaring a closure in a roundabout way.

You don't take declare "friendship" to be friends. You just be.

You refuse to "declare" friendship and yet you be. There's a real intention of being a friend.

When you don't have intention or faith in it, then you "declare".

That's how friendship is.

So, I took your refusal as a refusal to "declaration" and not to your willingness or intention or desire to be a friend whenever and even if never she needed.

It's truer that way. It's beautiful that way.

I hope you agree with me.

Have a beautiful agony, mate.

Nepe

You don't take declare "friendship" to be friends. You just be.

Read as:
You don't declare "friendship" to be friends. You just be.

It will be redundant to say I write Nepali English and generally do not bother to correct typos. Nevertheless, on the contrary of = on the contrary to. There must be thousand others. Don't be bothered.

Gurl Interrupted aaramaii hunu huncha..
Salmu babe lolz

Amazing sweetie I am so sorry to hear this. I hope you people can work it out!

stop this now, why do you demoralize yourself saying your gf dumped you. why can't you say something like she is not suitable for you and so it was meant to be. if it was not her then you would have dumped her.
stop feeling a loser and look around. there are plenty around, just take it easy........

When you refused the "proposal" of "friendship", I don't know what you were thinking or how Nakkali and other friends thought about it. However, I kinda liked it.---

NEPE bro, it was tough decision too, she is still saying 100 times that she wants to keep me in her whole life (As a friend), SOmetimes, I too can (or MUST) be Stubborn, I ve clearly told, we will never see each other. Honestly speaking, I wanna spend time with her, to be close with her but, to have comapany but I dont think its a good idea. Whenver I see her, im forced to recall our past relationship its too hard to believe that she is no more with me..!! If we see in Quantitative method, I really dont to be in touch with her (unwillingness 40%, my EGO 60%)---LET HER MISS ME, (if she does.........)

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Ke garne, shits happens; and there are things that are not under ur control, testo situations ma just say "kya majja - baalai ho! Big deal!" and move on :))

Gurl Interupted, Im really grateful for your kind suggestion, I can clearly sense that, u ve gone through all the details and advised from your TRUE HEART....Im so pleased with you. Ya i followed what u ve advised me " BAALAI HO..........." royara k garne hoina ta?

Your every sentence has strong message with some snese of humour, I just loved it, just see what u wrote "biologically speaking, the more stressed and sad you stay, more of ur cells will die - that will only be damaging to ur own body" then the other one "Tehi bhaera haresh khane haina; boru charesh khaye huncha :).

I simply got impressed how nicely you advise me, I read these sentene many times "So wipe those tears; glue that broken heart and enjoy ur singlehood - until u are ready to embrace love again. u've still got to look dashing for ur Miss right when u meet her, jahile bhete pani, so u can't be saaddoo, ofcourse not!)"

Gulr_Interupted, u r gal with HEART, full of love and sympathy, I just love the way u wrote everything....BTW, there must be something myesterious behind your UNIQUE Nick.........Well, as u ve ordered, this weekend Im goin to nightclub and I would definetly ask some HOT chick "GAL, IM SINGLE, READY TO MINGLE......."

Once again THANKS a lot

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Rythm drollin, thanks for sweet words.......aajkal kata ho Sissu???

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raazstone dude, have a gd day.

Amazing bro.. I don't kn how your whole story... as from the topic.. I 'll just say move on...
:-)
and one more thing..
I got one Shayeri for ya.... its in Hindi... SORRY..:-)

Dhokha mila jab pyaar mei.....

zindagi..me uddaaasi chaa gyi....

socha thaa chod denge..iss raaah ko.....par.....

KAMBAKHT..MOHALLE MEI AAAJ DOOSRI AA GYI.......

Amazing-- if it's meant to be, she'll come back to you. for now, chill out.....there are plenty of fish in the sea :-)

amazing.....wat a amazing life story...sorry hear bout dat broda.....shit happens as girl_interupted said.....glue ur broken heart re ....tyasto glue kaha paucha hola...mero heart ta jhan millions time tukra bhaisakyo...tyasko lagi ta ali ramro khal ko dherai glue chahincha hola ni hoina girl interupted.....meant to be a joke hai pheri......amazing bro pani k kura garcha yaar....club janchu ani hot gal lai..''GAL ..AM SINGLE READY TO MINGLE '' bhanne re...taysto club bata gal sangha love gardo rahecha ani kaha bata relationship ramro huncha ta.....(didn't mean to hurt anyone who goes to club hai pheri).....tyahi ho bro...keti manchhe ko jaat bhaneko euta lahara jastai ho re....lahara le euta rukh ma hunda hunda grow hundai janda arko rukh bhetyo bhane pahila ko rukh lai chodera arko rukh sangha tasincha re........KHUTTA BHAYE PACHI JUTTA JATI PANI PAUCHA RE (huna ta maile ahile samma euta pani payeko chiana)......i don't mean to offend any gal out here....murdar tero chai dd baini amma chiana ki kya ho bhanla pheri mero comment padera......ho hazru mero amma cha dd pani cha baini pani cha....tara k ho...euta bhanai ko silsila ma bhandiyeko matra ho.........i know sabai chelibeti haru tyasto hundaina tara......tyastai bhayera ta tyasto ukhan tukka banayeko hola ni hoina hahahaha....offend gareko chai kasai lai hoina...yeso padna maan lagyo bhane paddinus ani haso thata ma udai dinus...akhir life bhaneko nai haso thata ta ho ni hoina ra........lastly....amazing bro lai...k bhanchu bhane..i know wats going on ur mind n heart now...coz have been through dis stage...tyahi bhayera ta malai lagcha single baseko ekdam thik........put a big smile broda....dis is not da end of the world.....who knows one girl interupted le bhaneko jasto..this might be da best beggining of ur life....look forward and hope for da best......sala pyar main yesa hota hain...kyuki...sala ye pyar bhi aajhib kya word hain.......'PYAR'......uff....kasle invent garyo yo word re kya ajjaa......chill out broda.....yeti le pani pugena bhane arko choti jokes lekhera pathai dinchu hai....affno fun garnu hoina ki...tyo smile harayeko face ma alikati bhane pani smile return garne kosis garna ko lagi hahhahaha......loads of love ghundruk ko jhol

hey amazing, i had posted earlier also. you took her for granted and seems like you were not serious about her and now after losing her you want to get her. I am not how much you were/are in love. what will you do after getting her?

look man, i darely loved a girl and she took me for granted. our love lasted much more than yours, we had good relationship. we were about to get married and i had met her parents also. they were happy with both of us. but suddenly she met a guy and started going out with him and cheated me. it happened in such a short time. she did everything in just less than a month. I came to know about this and i cried a lot. i loved her, respected her, cared her more than anything in this world. its been almost a year now and i am still in depression. however, i am lot better than i was at that time. I had lost a lot of weight, almost lost my student status because i spilt my final exams. because of that, i am still struggling.

i know how it feels when you are in love and suddenly you find your loved one is not with you. my case was lot worse. imagine man, your loved one left you and went with someone else even with so much love you gave to her. it would have been lot better for me if she had talked with me and wanted to quit relationship before i knew about it. you are lucky man, at least your girl did not do it.

i know its hard to forget those moments. if i am doing this, i am sure you can do it too. i know i can never love any other girl like her again, but i have to live my life too. most probably she will not come back to me. my parents are asking me to get married and i am not ready yet. this is life i guess. like someone mentioned, do not take thing for granted bro. its really hard to get a true love bro. i was kinda one woman's man. if possible try to talk to her and make things work out, if not, let time decide about your future. that is what i did, i tried a lot from my side, it did not work out, and now time will tell me what will happen in my life. in my case, she might be feeling guilty, as she knows she destroyed my life and she has mentioned that to me as well, so she might not come back to me because of her guilt, but in your case, things are lot different. i hope you will be able to get her back if you really want her as your future wife. if it just your ego, then it will not last too long.

had been following this thread for almost two weeks now...but one question that keep lingering in my head....is it the end of the beginning or beginning of the end ?

both

I am a fan of Nushrat Fateh Ali Khan.
Here are some lines from his song that suits your situation

अब क्या सोचे क्या होना है जो होगा अच्छा होगा
पहेले सोचा होता पागल अब रोने से क्या होगा

आज किसिने दिल तोडा तो हमको जैसे ज्ञान आया
जिस्का दिल हमने तोडा था वो जाने कैसा होगा

अब क्या सोचे .............................

This one has both situation and solution.

Enjoy the life. :-)

Dear, Hankhora, scorpiogirl, ghundruk ko jhol, number, born_to_rule, Cerine AND namaskaar thanks a lot for being so supportive and dropping nice words!!! iM REALLY grateful to all of you. Will get back soo.

____________FROM MY WINDOW____________
When it was snowing heavily, the lousy evening I was just alone missing somebody very badly, Took few snaps from my Verendah,

गोरेटो अनि उस्तै छ गल्लि
कतै तिम्रो मन बदलियो कि ?

आकास उहि छ
धर्ति उहि छ
कतै तिम्रो मन बदलियो कि ?

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I think Aznshawty = Asian Shorty!!!

ha ha ha good guess... is it true Aznshawty?

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I could have missed this one if someone didn't remind me to go through it at least! Thanks!

Its perfectly OKAY to be yourself, none needs to change in a relationship. And its perfectly OKAY if you think you are in LOVE after so long years of relationship! Well, in these 2 years, you found HER to be someone who you can spend your life with, and she found YOU as not ? Well, that is justifiable too. I appreciate both of your decisions. Perhaps , she thought she was in love with you for those years and she now marks the differences that you two have.

Will you still accept her, if she comes someday [ a semester break , lets say ] and says: i think i was wrong! We can stay together! or, will you follow advices here and find the so-called "many fishes" in the sea , with whom , you might repeat the same thing in a relationship of about lets say 2 months or 2 years or more ...

I think, there is nothing wrong on your relationship, if you two decide to commit to it. If ONE of you thinks its an END whatsoever! then, perhaps , forgive my harshness , you never loved to commit! some other purposes, there could always be!

Remember, she could be genuinely CORRECT on her decision for her life as well! Respect her decision and move on in your life !!! Someone or even she might be the one : let the time tick along with your heartbeats now! It needs rest! : )

;O what???????? ;o