Today, all of a sudden my GF called me to share one of the scandalous messages “Darling, we cant be together anymore” I was totally dumfounded that gave me sudden jerk. Well, it’s been a long relationship for about almost 2 years. Honestly speaking, at the outset, I took it as a fun affiliation; on the contrary, she was utterly drenched with my love.

slowly but surely, I just took it for granted and met her when I needed. On the other hand, she used to call 10 times a day and sending countless messages which I hardly replied with real curiosity. Lucky, I was to be her first Boy Friend. Though we live in same city we meet hardly once or twice a week all because of my hectic schedule and some other things. She had always time for me, yes always.

Whenever, we met she strike a chord me how much she loves and how her life has been complete after my ingress. “Honey, You are my Prince” She whispered many times kissing me tightly. After few 5-6 months I got jaded with her as I really did not like her as a Girl Friend, she was different, unique, tall, blonde and average looking girl. But I do not know why she did not attract me that much.

However, things went on, I thought of ending relationship many times in between but I just assured myself “Man, there is nothing to lose”. During our relationship I spent few months abroad, and as traveling being my biggest passion, I made short trip around nearby countries though I always ran out of money. (Surprisingly, I never missed her in those trips, she mailed me everyday with everything she did from morning to evening). Bastard, I was, I did not carry even a postcard that barely costs a euro. She never grumbled anything, all she needed was me and my company and love.

Then finally, I had to go to another continent for my study purpose for one semester “I unofficially ended the relationship from my side and finally excused her for not being so loyal to her, I admitted I could have been a better boy friend. At that time, I felt sorry for her and all the troubles I poured upon her.

To my surprise she wrote me Next day “Man, you're the best thing that's ever happened to me. I want you to know you haven't treated me badly, ever, even though you seem to think so. You have always been so good to me, and I really mean always. But now it's time for you to leave for other country. And it's time to decide whether or not we'll continue together. I already said to you what I want. You, you, you. That is what I want. And I want it so badly. I hope and in a way I know that we'll continue this love story (don't mind the clichés I use all the time). Boy it's a long way, but why should it stop us? We love each other more than anything, more than we can say. I want you to be open with me, don't hold anything back. Tell me everything you want and feel and love and hate. “Then she added “I wanna share my stupid stuff with you, even the most stupid things I wanna tell you. I am ready to go through this long separation. Are you?”

Then after spending a semester I again came back and she was there to welcome me with open arms. My feelings were same for her. We met like before and so on and on. Slowly I started loving her, I wanted to spend more time with her….I enjoyed being with her….which obviously she liked a lot.

And suddenly she said she can’t be with me anymore coz she thought we r totally different and she is still puzzled if I am right person for her. When she divulged this yesterday I realized how much I liked her, I was about to burst into tears. I never expected such bitter news from her. I know it’s my entire fault not to take it seriously, similarly I am damn sure not to stay in that country for long where she wd love to spend her whole life, Marriage was not in our card (Neither mine nor her).

If so, why I am so much worried now? Is it ego problem or a MAN thing? Today I wrote her a very long email (perhaps the longest) and we exchanged 20 SMSs. It seems she had absolutely determined to walk away from my life. I started feeling her absence right from that moment and I am begging for her love now. Never in my wildest imagination, I thought I would do that but I am dying to meet her now and to express everything. But she kept on repeating, we r very different to each other, she had seen me long and its time we drive different lanes. But she is still in dilemma and , she had not yet revealed we wr BROKEN UP. Then we r meeting finally to decide about this thing and spending a night together in her apartment, that could be the last night or …..I do not know…..I still have chance….Dear friend,s please tell me what should I do??????

Is it only my EGO that does not allow her to go or is this real love? I cant figure out anything.., I’m also not certain if I can change her mind….or Should I let her go her own away, time will heal everything, what I should I say…..how should we act?? I don’t know….what will happen if we re established our relationship? Can I change myself? I have no IDEA friends………………Im just f’*** up but one thing is sure I LOVE HER.

(She is 20 years, European, a college student, better looking than me with European Standard height)

Just now I wrote her SMS

My princess, I will love you till the end of time
Every breath of mine I'll hold you by my side

But I'll rest in peace my sweetheart would you
Let me die in your arms with you-

Amazing bro,

I read your story but I couldn't figure out what to suggest since I haven't experienced situations as complex as this. I think you still have chance if you can thoroughly convince her of your love. Don't worry, be brave and you will certainly succeed. Good luck for that.

Btw, are you still in Canada or back to Europe?

Man!!! amazing, i feel for you..having said that,

it clearly shows that you're the one who caused this relationship to falter.

when she was there, you did not care, you took her for granted...you think you own her or what, is she your property? :P

and now when she decides to go away, you are shaken-- all of a sudden you want to tell her, i love you' ?

that, to me, is:

hypocrisy at its maximum...

forgive me for being blunt, but you don't deserve her, let her go and find the right person :P

LooTe

when you lose something, everything becomes very special.
how sure are you about you loving her? are you just saying that because you're losing her?

This is all i got for you

साझामा टाइम बिताएपछि यस्तै हो ब्रो। चुपचाप उसैलाइ दिनरात मडारिराभे यस्तो दिन देख्नु पर्दैनथ्यो।

Dude you f***ed up so let it go man. Just learn from your mistakes. I believe there is no such thing as soul mate or some stupid shit like that. One person falls in love with lot of different people and they have to let go a lot sooo you know learn from what you did with this girl and do better with some other girl.
peace

Hi Amazing,

I am sorry to hear about your situation.

When you are going to spend some time together express your feeling but do not be too emotional. Tell her why you think she is the right person for you. Apologize for what you did but remember “Sorry does not makes dead man alive” so if you are considering saying sorry say the way that if you MEAN it.

Ask her what went wrong? If she tells you what happened then think before you speak do not speak emotionally. But tell her what have you felt when she said about changing the lanes and being you two are completely dissimilar.

If any of you decide that you are not going to be together or this is the right thing to do then perceive that it is the right thing to do. Let her go and be gentle to her. Tell her that she means world to you.

For you if things does not work out. Crying helps, when hurts you should cry, it is completely natural. Stay around friends, the people who you care and the people who care about you. Drinking and smoking does not help you in any ways, it makes things worse, so stay out of it.

Someone who is very close to me told me once when I had to go through similar situation. We are human, we do make mistakes and we learn from our mistakes and the people who says that they loves you but could not forget and pardon you from your mistakes then that person is not entirely sure about being in love with you. This is very true.

Life goes on.

People always say that their world will stop if someone leaves or dies. That was never the case. If it was then it was foolishness.

Millions of people followed the Mahatma Gandhi; when he was shot down nobody died after him.

In Nepal: When Royal Family Massacre did take place. I do not think of anyone who died after them.

People live and we have a reason to looking forward to live. Be optimistic.

I believe everything happens for reason. Good things happen to those who wait.

Be careful do not try to hurt yourself and her in anyway. Be kind and gentle, as you have mentioned that you were never good to her so this might be the last chance that you show you care and respect her existence.

So, good luck. I hope you can patch things up with your Love.

WoF

the people who says that they loves you but could not forget and pardon you from your mistakes then that person is not entirely sure about being in love with you.
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well not anymore you mean. They could be fully in love in the beginning but they were so hurt they can't forget or forgive the mistake. That i don't think means they weren't in love before or even at present. It becomes about trust after that.. and their willingness to put themself in that position again. How does that quote go?

let them hurt you once then it's their fault, let them do it twice it's your fault??

Amaxzing,
I think she met someone. That's the reason she wanted to breakup after all these years of neglect from you. She never complained eventho you didn't send her a single post card or SMS for months..... she was the one who called you all the time. All of sudden she calls you and wants to beak up! meaning she has found someone. It's your call how you wanna react to that. I don't know if you want to continue the relationship or not. But one thing for sure; if you want to continue the relationship, it's gonna be hard for you to convince her. Now she is not gonna just believe whatever you say... you gotta prove it to her.You gotta do is give her gifts, flower, candy or even moon.

Good luck!

amazing bro...im kinda speechless(well duh!kinda inexperienced in such stuffs so dun take me or my words too seriously..just need to get some thots out :oD hehe)

anyways all this kinda seems ironic doesnt it?it does to me..(well the world is full of irons..and yeah we are always asked if we are gettn enuf irons?watever ;oP hehe seriously i hope i dun stay away from this 'topic' too much :o| )...me no Dr Love ;oP..so i know not wat love is(well i never thot i could ever define it tho we dun stop tryn do we?..can love ever be defined with meagerly words?)its feelns that we feel towards others(and maybe with oneself too?hehe)..feelns that just wanna burst out?which cant really be explained..

but if one tries to think it logically(well if we have the same wavelength and wat i find logical u might too? ;oP) and try to not dwell on the unexplainable..u said u been together with her for 2 yrs now..and as a bf and gf..there was this programme which i bummed into..it was a study on human beings habits..esp on attachment..to cut it short..it kinda showed that any two person if they are together for "enuf" time even if it was just physical relationship..they do get attached..and when they have to part..they find it hard..which is like duh!everyone knows?;oP

anyways ur gf(ex?:oS hope not*touch wood*) well the things u said about her..well i dun think there are that many ppl like her..so far like u 'confessed'?hehe..she seemed to be the one always giving in the relationship...she def sounds amazing!!!(just like ur nick?coincidence or fate?;oP hehe)im sure there are tonnes of things about her u liked even when u thot u didnt..if not u wouldnt have been with her for 2 yrs?like u mentioned u were takin it all for granted then so hardly did notice anything much..

and to cut it even shorter hehe...ur askin is it just ur ego stoppin u from lettn her go or more?well i dunno if ego could be the right word...but im sure watever is stoppin u from lettn her go is more than just one thing..dun u think so?things like attachment(esp after 2 yrs..both emotionally and physically..)..realisation that gals like her who gives and gives without askn much back is rare...u def cant stop feeln ur gonna lose smthing great if u let her go and this doesnt work out hoina?and i guess u def lose smthing great(the things u say about her) if she leaves u..plus i guess ur feeln the anxiety and wat not..cos when we feel we are about to lose smthin than only do we realise a lot of things dun we?dun we always miss the things we lost and not the things we have?duh!;oP

anyways let me end it..think im repeating myself(plus my mind is smwhere else right now.. as always :oS hehe)...hope watever u do(end up doing) kinda works for u..u already have some future thots that u wont wanna stay in that country while she never would wanna leave that place..which confuses u even more?makin u think it def wont work out?(when was long dist ever easy?hehe)while another part of u wanna try?cos u feel if she is the one for u..u can do it?so much questions..so much confusion?(well im not in ur position right now and im already confused :o| hehe)

do u wanna take a chance of giving both of u some time..some space to sort out both ur feelns..time always helps doesnt it?hehe..or u feel doin that might be too risky..esp if that makes her leave u?

good luck :oD..and im sure watever happens things will still be good..i mean experience is a valuable lesson hoina?;oP hehe..and oh i def will try to get pointers from u when and if i ever need to write stuffs in sms so be warned ;oP...i mean i guess it def is love(watever love is ;oP) if both were dyin in each others arms and still feeln happy (too much movies has brainwashed me :o|)i mean im not really a decisive kinda person kinda find it hard to make decisions..and in some ways..i feel that i will only admit to myself that i really really really loved another person after spending with my life with her?hehe yeah seriously been brainwashed by movies :o| hehe...

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and oh btw loote bro..blunt hurts!seriously too much torturers there..i mean just kill with a sharp one instead of makin one feel more pain with blunt things pls :o( ;oP...but i guess i just had to say this..dun we always feel we(or another person whom we care about?) deserve better?aint that greed?;oP i mean when will it ever be enuf?;oP...seriously if someone deserves it or not..i know i def am not someone to judge(are u?just askn hai ;oP) but if he/she has smthing good..good for them?:oD

oh btw just lettn out my (lame) opinion hai..def not debating/arguing ;oP...i mean i accepted ur opinion..will u accept mine?:o( ;oP

good day!:oD

my gf dumped me too. but here is the difference between mine and your's story. In my case, i loved her so much. i always had time for her. I was always available. i always gave her everything i could. I always praised her, always talked high about her with my friends , with her friends , with her family. i guess she took me for granted and dumped me, not only that she cheated me. it would have been lot better, i would have felt lot better, had i been told that i am not wanted in her life and she wants to break up with me. but i fould out about her cheating and she got away from me. its been very hard for me. it was unbelieveable. our parents knew about us and we had talked about our marrige with parents and i had met her parents as well. stil, it happened. It not only bad adverse effect on my confidence, mind, love, trust, but also on my career. I am still srtuggling just to save my student status here in usa. I was in lot better position back then.

you were lucky dude, you had such a lovely and loving girl and you never cared about her?? amazing.

kuchin parayo. all men deserve that and they r all the same and they always dont have time for their grls.

good for her

Hey danny bro!
hehe...i know i am being really harsh on amazing...and i agree with your say....i am not the one to judge who deserves what/whom....

and i also want to give plaudits to amazing bro for coming out openly in public and accepting his mistakes...that takes quite a lot ...

that said,
i have a strong opinion against people who don't take their relationships seriously. i am quite sure amazing is not a minor or a teenager. he should be able to understand the responsibilities that come up with a relationship. it's easy to fall in love, but it's equally hard to maintain the relationship if one is not serious enough...

am open to criticism myself, and i don't mind being pointed out if i commit a mistake... i could have been more diplomatic with my response but after reading what amazing wrote, i feel MORE towards that girl than for amazing himself. again, forgive me for being direct, but that's how i strongly feel....

i have posted my last comment in true spirits. it's not only directed towards amazing but to thousands of others who, i am pretty sure, have gone through similar situation.

i have my sympathy for amazing bro...i hope he will make a lesson out of it...what's gone is gone...one needs to learn and grow from it...

g' luck!

LooTe

World Map bro, thanks for wishing me a good luck, now Im nowhere yaar, yestai ho kahile wari kahile pari, I mean kahile Canada kahile Europe...will talk abt it later hai, u still in Dublin?

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it clearly shows that you're the one who caused this relationship to falter,
LooTe bro, Yes I agree with u and Ive admitted it all. No man, your comments r not harsh on me, I like the things said straight..but I wont let her go that easily, at least I say so now.
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how sure are you about you loving her? are you just saying that because you're losing her? SILLY LILY
U r right Lily, Aba k garnu MUTU kholera dekhauna namilne SAJHA ma...
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Nepasider, what a song man,,, I love it...Thanks dude
I can't tell ya baby what went wrong
I can't make you feel what you felt so long ago
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Pire, u r too straight LOL
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DevilSkyline, thanks for suggestion.
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Windofchange, u r too kind, thanks for valuable suggestions, I need to adapt that but I know its hard, I see WIND OF CHANGE somewhere....just like yr nick. (Any reason behind your nick?).....

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puppify, that cd be one possibilites but she had been neglecting some offers and she shared me everything, I don know abt this time..Anyway, THANKS dude

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dananaha, OMG, u sound so realistic, 2 years and its for sure attahement. and i ve no hard feelings that Im the one who is responsible for all this, anyway..she has not gone yet.....les see. I like your comments dude....and hehe don watch too much movies heheheh

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number bro, i feel sorry for you though im in same condition, thats why People said back in NEPAL, ACHANO KO PIR KHUKURILE BUJHDAINA

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gundaa bro, good for her, bad for me:-(

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Once again Loots bro, never mind, I like your ture spirits.

Amazing Bro, you are amazing. Bhet bho ta Uni sanga??
I'm really curious.
If not then...
My wishes to you. Don't do anything....just TRUST yourself. Don't care about the result........or what WILL happen....
Just listen to your heart....
SOMETIMES SACRIFICE means something in love...

Good Luck

-daum

"Naari, Raaja ra Lahara ko kahilei bhar nagarnu" Ini harule aafno najik ma jo chha tesailai samauchhan.
bro le yo ukti suneko thiyena jasto lagyo.

Life ma jo adkinchha tesko halat yestai hunchha. Always flow man. U can find another one. She will be happy with another one and the life goes on.
Don't get stagnant with the same thought and don't let urself prone to pollution, mind pollution.

Enjoy the life. Learn to laugh and kick the sorrows not facing other people and cry for suggestion. Never let ur spirit die. Go on. Aim for higher.

Last but not least, from my experience, There is nothing called LOVE in this world.
Every relationship is about GIVE and TAKE. If u people can trade better than u get involved in a relation. If u find some better trader than what is wrong in changing the trader.

Any way. Enjoyyyyyyy if u can't then Learn.
Cheer up and don't let any of ur moment die in dullness.

hehe. Nothing is for ever in life.

sorry for typos.

:-)

After all government school product. hehe
I find myself writing better english sometimes though.

uff amazing bro pani feri lovema fasechha.mitra banaraska laddu khaya bhi pachhtaya nahi khaya bhi pachhataya.tired of all these ghurkis n hurts n nakharas n bahanas.that hardest thing is to make someone happy.there is hardly peace in relation.no peace no creativeness, no creativeness no development.
my suggestion for u amazing bro:
girl loved u a lot and it was ur mistake not to realize.u should have at least respected what she did for u and how she was there for u i mean readyness but it makes no sense by lamenting over the past now.so if u realize ur mistake and really love her then u should express ur feelings,say what u feel but no exaggeration.no matter whether she loves u back or not, be there for her as she was there for u when u had no feelings.love her as much as u can and she will start feeling for u as u started feeling for her though u had no feelings.for a successful relationship on requires patience and sacrifice and this is ur iron gate.u will be judged now.make her feel u don tired and lose hope.love never dies,only realtions do.if there is sacrifice and readyness, u will get a chance.show ur readyness, honesty and love and care.everything is possible with love.by the way don forget to apologize and take her into arms if she wishes to.if there is truth in ur words and eyes,u r the winner.gud luck!
by the way i wont suggest u like others to let her go coz its very difficult to find someone who really loves u.and even if u love, that becomes peerless so go for it.don despair.and don give her chance to point at u.he can who thinks he can but even i wont suggest u to ruin urself for her.if she comes back she is urs , if she does not think she was never urs.
Last but not least only few are honest to themselves but u have expressed even ur negative points which shows u r really feeling guilty.my good wishes r with u!

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